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In this episode, Shamina covers how to identify when you’re in a scarcity or lack mindset and how to shift into a more an abundant mindset that will help align you with what you desire to create.
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Accessing the Quantum Through Emotional-Self Mastery is an 8-week life-changing experience where you will become the most badass amazing next-level version of yourself by learning how to become the master of your emotions and not it over you. You will learn how to take action toward:
• Mastering your emotions, overhauling your mindset, up-level your life, and accessing the most amazing next-level version of yourself
• Claim your wealth in all aspects of your life
• Step into your power to receive more freely from the Universe 

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The Quantum Woman Podcast Episode 9 Transcript:

[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to another episode of The Quantum Woman. I’m your host, Shamina Taylor. So in today’s episode, um, one of our listeners asked how to change our brains from believing and brains and beliefs from lack to scarcity to wealth. I’m probably gonna talk about this on a lot of episodes because I feel like it’s so much.

Um, It, it seems like it’s just so easy that we’re gonna be able to like, oh yeah, I’m just gonna start thinking positively, or I’m gonna just all of a sudden go from being, you know, in a scarcity mindset to being an abundant thinker. So I remember when I first started doing this, I was like, where is my scarcity showing up?

Like, cuz I first wanted to. Identify the problem. I also would sit there and chant like shit all the time. I would get these mala beads [00:01:00] like your girl did everything. Okay. I would get these mala beads and I would do like their 108 beads, and I would sit there and I would chant all these prosperity. Um, Mantra is sit there.

Cause they say for 21 days you can do it right. It’ll change. I mean, I did everything and I’m like, okay, I’m just gonna have abundant thinking thoughts. I’m gonna just, money’s all around me. I’m a money magnet. I love money. It’s just flowing and growing and coming in and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Okay, all that’s great.

But if you inherently have this lack mindset, or if you have. A scarcity mindset that stuff is going to come in, but it’s not gonna stick, right? It’s gonna, it’s gonna be, um, a Band-Aid kind of like, you know, instead of going to a deeper thing. I mean, I used to get prosperity candles. I, one time I looked like I was having a seance or something because I’d have like abundance candles.

I’d have all these [00:02:00] candles. I’d have, like, I would douse myself with all these money oils. I still kind of do that sometimes. So, um, I still have abundance candles, but, . I don’t have like the burning every minute of the day. I would literally have like a bunch of candles. Like it was probably a fire hazard, what I was doing, um, but I was trying to figure it out, right?

So this is why you’re listening to this, so you don’t have to go, um, you know, have to have an extinguisher on hand and spin all that money on candles. So I think the first part is, is to identify are you an abundant thinker or are you, or are you in scarcity? So scarcity to mindset. In my opinion, it’s a deeper story, but like, let’s just start with the basics.

You know, scarcity is like someone who feels like if someone else is winning, you can’t too, if you know. . I see it a lot online. You know, I see a lot of people who, if somebody’s celebrating a win, and I’m not saying people who are like, you know, shoving their money wins down everybody’s throats or something like that.

And I, I say that and it sounds like dramatic, [00:03:00] but where it’s like, I made like a million dollars and you didn’t, na na na boo boo, you know, kind of thing like that. But it’s, you know, I feel like women get to celebrate their success because men do it and like, why can’t we? Right. But I feel like there’s a lot of judgment around it.

So you see scarcity showing up a lot because again, remember one of my episodes, I talk about money being masculine and a lot of. That are in that scarcity mindset, do not feel safe with money. So if they see someone else having a safety with money, it’s almost like saying, I have the perfect little boyfriend and I have the perfect marriage, and you don’t.

It’s like that kind of same triggering that shows up, right? Like, why? What’s happening to me? And so a lot of people who have that same type of traumatic stuff or whatever, that scarcity mindset, they don’t feel safe when the money, they’ll make a lot, but then it’ll be like p poof, like where to go. She was gone with the wind.

I wanted to start singing that, but I might sit on this, this podcast and I can’t sing, so just don’t judge me. Um, you could judge me, whatever, but I just can’t sing. Like I, I have a song singing in my head and she was gone, like the Wind, [00:04:00] or I don’t know what this song is this like a 70 song. Um, I digress.

So, scarcity. Scarcity is, You, it’s hard to see someone else win you. If somebody, like I sometimes see my daughter have a little bit of it, um, you know, she, she has a hard time and sh she, she’ll get angry probably from sharing this, but, you know, she’s not someone that’s easily to share her food. , she’s, which, you know, a girl likes her food, but, you know, she, she’ll share after she’s done eating, but she wants to make sure she gets hers first, you know?

And, um, One thing you know, uh, about really generous people you’ll see or that live in abundance, they’ll open up whatever it is and they’ll be like, here, take one. Like, you can have it first. They won’t feel like you’ll take all of their franchise. I mean, I. I, I share my French try sometimes and sometimes I don’t.

But, um, it all depends on [00:05:00] how hungry I am. But, um, you’ll see that people have a hard time sharing. They will be very judgmental. Um, they will feel like everything is running out. Um, you know, there’s a difference between scarcity and like, I let a lot of people talk about wasting, and you’ll hear that I thought I could waste money.

I could think things could be wasted. I feel like there’s. If I believed money could be wasted, then I believe it could go away. You know, I sometimes feel like when we’re squeezing that last drop out of the, the shampoo bottle or squeezing that toothpaste last dropout, it’s because we have in our mind that we’ll waste this toothpaste.

The whole thing will be a waste if we throw it out with one thing left in there, or if we’re not scraping that jar. If strawberry jam out of the. Jar, if we’re not taking like a spatula, which I would do in the past and get every last little drop would probably gimme like half a spoonful. But I didn’t waste it.

You know, it makes me feel like things are in limitations. And so, um, if it’s limitations, then [00:06:00] there’s nothing for me. You know, it, it won’t come to me. I, I won’t be able to have that, you know, scarcity people are, um, There, there are the, the people that are the half, the half, the glass is half full. You know, they’re, they’re, they’re not people who can see, um, the possibility of what could happen.

They’re the first to tell you what’s impossible, that’s not gonna work out, or how. There’s no way their, their ability to believe is very, very like small because they only see what can’t work, what’s what the difficulties are showing up. Um, because the possibilities or the future mindset of that situation is like, well, there’s no way.

So they don’t even try. Right? So scarcity is like, I’m not gonna worry about spending that. Um, you know, abundant thinkers are like, they share. , they’re rooting you on, you know, they’re gonna celebrate you like from a really genuine place. I see this in women all the time. You’ll always see a woman who is, um, [00:07:00] genuinely, genuinely, uh, cheering on another sister or another woman in her life.

And she’s, she’ll, she’ll celebrate you. You get, feel it like, it’s like she, she knows it lifting you. Is not gonna tear her down or take away from her. And you’ll see that part of her that’s, you know, in abundance, which is a great start because a lot of people don’t have that. They, their jealousy is getting in the way cuz if they think if somebody else has it, and that scarcity of mindset, that means you don’t have it.

So that what’s your, what’s your vibrational frequency that you’re gonna be at? Like, lack, because it means if someone else has it, they took it from you. Right. So I don’t feel like anybody can take anything from me. You know? It. I always see when a woman’s doing something that shows me the possibility that I can do it.

I know not everybody’s wired like that, and it took me a long time to get her because, uh, your girl was in scarcity, uh, for a while. You know? Um, scarcity is a lot of [00:08:00] resentment. You’ll feel like you’re, you, you resent things in people, uh, abundance. You were like, you know, you could look at a situation and be like, okay, I’ll learn from that, you know?

Or scarcity, they’re gonna live that same thought process, that same belief, that same experience over and over again. It’s gonna become law for them, right? Where an abundant thinker’s like, well that happened once. Like, you know, what happened a couple times? It’s not gonna be what’s gonna happen again.

They’re gonna like, feel into the possibility that new things could happen. There’s, could be a new story. Um, it doesn’t have to be the old story, right? Um, abundance thinking is. Helping somebody, like just generally stopping and give your time, you know, letting people in when you’re driving too. Um, it’s like, you know, stopping for two seconds to hold the door up for somebody.

Like, you know, people who are in scarcity and lack, they’re usually pretty selfish. They’re very, um, you know, what’s in it for me? Where an abundant thinkers, like, what’s in it for us? You know, [00:09:00] what, how can I help you? And. Me too, right? You know, or something. Or how can I just help you? Um, what I would do if you’re looking to shift into more of abundance thinking, um, you know, scarcity people, they complain a lot.

They blame a lot. They’re, it’s, it’s always someone else’s fault. Why they don’t have what they want. They don’t take responsibility for things in their lives. Um, they’re not in a place of power, usually abundant people. Um, they’re like, okay, this happened. You know, like I said, there’s a mistake or, or something that didn’t go away as planned.

Okay, I’m gonna learn from it. Um, abundance people know there’s an overflow, there’s, there’s, there’s more where that came from, you know, and if something should, should have depleted, well, it’ll get replenished. Uh, it’ll be okay, you know? Uh, we’ll figure it out. It’s not the end of the world. Uh, you’ll, you’ll hear it in the way people.

You’ll hear it. You’ll [00:10:00] hear it. You’ll see it in their behaviors and how they treat people. Um, You know, my grandmother, she used to carry this, this purse and her bosoms, she had brick breasts and she was always the first person to open up that little satchel. Maybe you had a grandma like that and pull out money for you to go get like ice cream or give you money for something.

I mean, she was, she was always baking and always doing things and. , um, you know, she was just, she was, she was just a giver. And you’ll see that there’s certain people in your life that are just gonna be like that. Right? That they’re gonna, they’re, you just always even count on them. You could feel that. Um, sometimes I could be toxic too, if they’re not, like, if they’re just giving to people, please.

But I’m not saying my grandma did that, but, you know, some people could do that. So there’s a caveat there, which will come up in other episodes. I would look at somebody who you feel has a strong mindset around abundance. [00:11:00] I tell you, they’re not attached to money. Um, money doesn’t have that kind of control over them.

They are so happy with what they have. They are in so much gratitude and appreciation for. Everything, everything and anything. You know, I keep having this vision of Gandhi while I’m talking about this. I don’t know why, but it’s like somebody who would seemingly not have anything, probably had felt the most abundant, um, because of the peace that they had, or, you know, the knowing the.

The, the acceptance, the celebration of life of where you’re at. Um, I don’t think things make us feel abundant. I think it’s an energy that’s within us and we start to feel appreciation for their lives. You know, like breathing in this air, like take a deep breath with me, like right there. That’s abundance, right?

Like you get to take a breath. Someone just took their last, you know, like, what could we really sit and be [00:12:00] appreciative for? You know, that, that. I think that’s how we switch. It’s, it’s people who are like, um, reliving and recycling old stories and, you know, the poor me syndrome. Um, why hasn’t it happened yet?

Instead of like, you know, or it’s never gonna happen, you know, or, um, and not having appreciation for your life. I always look at people who have lost a lot. And there’s still smile. Like, you know, I, I love stories about people who have overcome such incredible tragedies, like even maybe losing a limb or, you know, and, and just against all odds, still going for it because at some point in their life they had to decide like, I was gonna just go and be happy and persevere.

Or I could sit here and feel sorry for myself and talk about all the things that have happened in my life that weren’t. . That to me is like the basis of just an abundant thinking. [00:13:00] It’s um, it’s moving over from poor me to oh me, like, wow. Me, like, yes, me. Like this is amazing me. And that’s power in your thought process.

So I would spend a week. Uh, every day I write a gratitude journal. Lately I’ve been slipping and I, I notice when I do things shift in my life because the more grateful I am every day about the things that are going on. I mean, you can find gratitude in everything, right? Like the sun came out today, like my daughter gave me the most amazing hug, or I heard from an old friend or,

I had a great idea, or you know, I had an amazing workout. I had such good sleep. Like it doesn’t have to be for grandiose things in your life. I feel like when we’re in appreciation for a lot of the little things in our life, it builds up. The momentum for greater abundance because instead of sitting there, [00:14:00] um, complaining, you’re actually in gratitude and appreciation for this precise moment.

So you’re shifting out of like someone who’s not in control of their emotions in life into someone who’s in full of control of their emotions in life. Cuz even if shit hits the fan, right, you can still find something to be grateful for. When that fan, you know, gets cleaned up, maybe that shit had to hit, hit the fan so something could come through.

You know, we, we always feel like things have to be delivered to us in a silver platter, but they don’t. Right? So abundance thinking is the beginning. This is the beginning. And while I’ll come talk about this for more, more episodes to come, just start really being appreciative of. People in your life and experiences and sunsets and sunrises [00:15:00] and good sleep and that, that air, there’s one in your lungs like that alone.

I, for a while there, I’d wake up every morning and I would say, thank you, thank you, thank you. I mean, my eyes woke up and I woke up today. That would change the game for me about how I looked at the rest of the day. I was like, I get another chance to do this life the way I want to. So a lot of times people wake up and they wake up really happy, but then they pick up all the shit from the day before and they take their abundance that’s full tank and they just like crush it.

because they think about all the things that aren’t going right and all the things they need to worry about and all the things that they’re suffering with. And, and they just take themselves right out of appreciation for life. And, and people sometimes will be stuck in that cycle. And if you’re one of them, I invite you to really start looking deeper inside of yourself to like, well, how do [00:16:00] I like who I am right now?

And do I wanna change? And if you don’t, Keep doing you. But if you wanna go into more of abundance thinking, it starts with these basic things of how you operate on a daily basis. If you enjoyed this podcast episode, if we wanna talk more and have a greater conversation about this and you wanna ask more questions or you feel like I, you want to find out more, tell me message.

Um, maybe you wanna leave me a review. Um, you know, if, if it felt like it called you or you wanna share this with somebody else, I’d love, I’d love for you to do that. I feel like, you know, when we’re in scarcity, we’re in suffering and we don’t need to do that. We don’t need to be in suffering. We need to be in a place of free flowing, abundance, love enjoyment.

We came here to have those beautiful experiences too. But a lot of times when you’re scarcity, it’s your default mode, and it’s not a place of, um, thriving. It’s surviving Again, if you enjoy this, um, Share it with somebody, leave me a review and, um, stay tuned for the next [00:17:00] episode. I hope that you’re enjoying this series, and if you are, I’d love to hear from you.

You can go to my website and download my wealth meditation. It is amazing. It is going to help you, um, just start feeling into more wealth. You don’t need to meditate, just go listen to it. But if you do meditate, you’ll enjoy it. And. My book is coming out and locking the Quantum Woman. I can’t wait for you to get a copy of that in your hands.

And if you wanna work with me further, I’ve got so many different programs. It’s on my website. I’ve got a yearlong, um, membership called the um, Conscious collective, uh, year membership. And it’s for people who wanna come join into a community where we are gonna do our teaching, we’re gonna do a meditation, they’re gonna be a q and a, we get to get down and dirty, and maybe you want higher level support and my masterminds are there, or other support.

I’m here for you. And, um, or just keep tuning in. All right. I’ll talk to you soon. Stay, stay tuned for the next episode. Have a great one. Bye for now.

In this episode, Shamina talks about the importance of becoming the creator of your reality and finding who and what you truly desire in life. 
Head over to The Quantum Woman Facebook group to join our community of amazing women like you.
Full Transcript Below

Accessing the Quantum Through Emotional-Self Mastery is an 8-week life-changing experience where you will become the most badass amazing next-level version of yourself by learning how to become the master of your emotions and not it over you. You will learn how to take action toward:
• Mastering your emotions, overhauling your mindset, up-level your life, and accessing the most amazing next-level version of yourself
• Claim your wealth in all aspects of your life
• Step into your power to receive more freely from the Universe 

Find Shamina on: Facebook | Instagram | TikTok | YouTube | Twitter

Podcast Episode 8 Transcript:
[00:00:00] Hello, and welcome to another episode of The Quantum Woman. I’m your host, Shamina Taylor. And in this episode, um, We’re gonna talk about who and what you want in your life. This actually was some, uh, something that one of our listeners, um, wanted me to talk about. So, who and what you want in your life. I feel like we are the creator of Re Our Reality, so we are the creators of our reality.

I, I do believe that. I’ll say that. You’ll hear me say that over and over again. If you can take full responsibility. The things that are happening in your life, that means that you can be the person that gets to be the solution person. You get to create what you want. If you feel like you don’t have power and things are happening on the outside of you, well then guess what?

You don’t have the power to have things happen on the inside. Um, who and what you want on your life are. A decision. It comes down to a decision. You know, if there’s people in your life [00:01:00] right now that you aren’t serving you or not bringing you to a place where you have pure enjoyment for having them there, I, I would ask yourself and, you know, why are they there?

Why, what, what is really keeping them in your life, you know? This year, 2022, I have, you know, once again gone through a shift of the type of clients that I wanna work with. Um, the type of friendships that I want in my life, uh, the type of family I want in my life. Uh, they say you can pick your friends, you can’t pick your family, right?

But, um, I think when you raise your standards of what you’ll tolerate in your life and what you’ll allow, You change your frequency about what you’re gonna admit. So this year was the breaking of toxic patterns for me. Like 2002 is gonna go down as the year that I finally broke that cycle. And I really healed through, um, my past traumas and P T S D and hypervigilance, everything that was [00:02:00] around toxic relationships and.

You know, I remember going to seek out practitioners and they would say, Shamina, you’re so amazing. Like, why are you putting up with this? Or like, why are you allowing this client in your life? Why are you allowing this men, you know, da da da da. You don’t need any more mentors. You’re like so amazing.

You are the mentor. You know, I remember working with a wizard and he’s like, yeah, I worked, done. You surpassed me. And this guy was straight up wizard and he’s freaking phenomenal. And, um,

When, when you’re in a cycle, sometimes you allow people that don’t serve you like that are, I guess what I’m saying is that they’re at half mass in your life. You know, they’re not all the way supporting you. They’re not there to, um, see you when all the way they’re there. Maybe when you’re kind of winning or when you’re down, you know there’s people in your life that are gonna be.

I don’t like this word so much, [00:03:00] but like energy of empires, they call ’em, or people that are just gonna freeload off of your emotions. And it’s your responsibility. And it’s my responsibility to be like, okay, why am I in this situation again? So it’s somebody that you don’t feel like you want anymore. And I’m telling you, when I had to end my marriage, man, that was.

That was one of the hardest things I had to do in my life because, you know, not everything was bad. Like, I can’t say that, you know, my ex-husband is a good man in a lot of ways. It’s just, I, I lost myself in that marriage and I was not, um, Who I am today. And I don’t know if we, if I stayed there, I would become her.

So it was a really hard decision choosing myself outta that situation. I just knew that it, it wasn’t a situation where I was growing anymore and I was only surviving. And I was sustaining and it wasn’t, uh, a place of growth. And I, I, my, my [00:04:00] soul was calling me to grow cuz there was something bigger for me to do.

And looking back at the last 10 years of what’s transpired since the first time that I, you know, separated from him. It was a really hard decision to have that relationship end and um, some of them were really, And some of them are quite easy and you might still miss that person when you still let them go.

Doesn’t mean you stop loving them. You know, there’s some friendships that have left my life and I still have lots of emotions for these people. I, you know, sometimes wanna go pick up the phone and call ’em, especially if I’ve seen something and then I remember, no, no, no. Like, you know, we’re, we’re. That person is not, wasn’t serving you anymore.

I dunno if it’s a Gemini thing or the way I’m wired, but sometimes I just forget things that have happened and I’m like, oh yeah, I would love to just pick up. And then I’m like, no, I’ll get this gut feeling in me like that they weren’t, they weren’t good for you. I notice that when I’m elevating and I’m healing through something and I’m becoming a greater version of [00:05:00] myself, what happens is, There’s gonna be people that grow with me, and there’s gonna be people that grow away from me.

And, and it’s like the people that grow with me is easy because they’re coming with me. But the people that grow away from me, that’s the hardest thing because you want everybody to come with you. I remember the first time I really witnessed this on a really grand scale was in one of my masterminds, uh, a period of change in growth.

I saw myself just moving at lightning speed. I was moving faster, I was taking action and. The women that were there kind of from the beginning with me, only a few of them came with me, and the rest were just like dropping off like a slides. And it was really hard for me because, you know, I wanted everybody to come.

I wanted everybody to have this success. I wanted everybody, but not everybody was able to or was wired the way I was or I. Was like me. So I realized I had to change my messaging. I had to change who I was speaking to. I couldn’t call people in that at that level where I was before because they wouldn’t move as fast as I did.

And then for a period of time, I had called in some really, really, really powerful women, and a few [00:06:00] came in that I thought were powerful and that weren’t as powerful, and so they weren’t ready for this change. And you’ll see as soon as you. Like rock it up. The, there’s people that will jump and, and go with you cuz they’re like, I, she’s not leaving me behind, you know?

Um, I have a client that’s been in all my programs and she’s like, you’re not going anywhere. I’m going with you. You know? Um, but. There’s some that will get triggered as how fast you’re going, and then they’ll feel like, well, she’s leaving me behind. And then a lot of abandonment will come up, or a lot of the sister ones will come up and they’ll feel like betrayed because somebody is outgrowing them.

And it’ll turn around and they’ll think like, well, I’m outgrowing you. But really, you know, it’s like this process is really hard. You know, certain friendships, sometimes, you know, I’ve got a, a new philosophy of friendships. Cuz us usually before it would be like, well, you know, I love having people in my life that I just, that are easy and are fun and that, you know, [00:07:00] have my back and that I really enjoy.

But I found when I’ve gotten to this level of where I’m at right now, I need super powerful women that are at. My level or even above me because it is, it is incredibly hard to be at this place. Um, even just going out for dinner, you know, and knowing that someone’s still struggling to pay a bill and that you could buy the bill all the time, but you shouldn’t be always the one that’s paying the bill.

When you have a friendship like that, there should be a give and take, right. And. I realize I’m just giving, that’s giving you a small example, but just the goals, like the mindset, the conversations, they won’t be at the level that you need. And when you’re in this growth game, you’re moving so quickly.

Sometimes those high school friends or friends you’ve had for 10 or 15 years or 20 years, you know, they’ll still be great to meet up with for like, you know, the holidays or whatnot, to have a chit chat, but they may not be people that’s in your everyday life. , maybe they’ll be there and they can cheer you on, but they’re not gonna be the people that are gonna be like, you know, behind you going go like, come on.

Or [00:08:00] inspiring you because she’s moving and you wanna move with her. I feel like when you’re at this level, you need people in your life, they’re gonna inspire you to change. They’re gonna, you know, um, they’re gonna, uh, I don’t wanna say trigger, but they’re gonna like, They’re gonna make you step it up because just because of who they are and what they’re doing, you know, there’s going to, it’s not that you’re in competition with them, but you’re gonna be like, okay, let’s all go.

You know? And you want someone that’s gonna be able to cheer you on without, like, that, um, that jealousy of what happens when, you know, uh, certain women are expanding and you. I don’t ever want anybody to feel like that. That’s why I love my mastermind because every woman in there, I’m cheering her on, like, her success is my success.

Like, I want her to do better than me. I want her to supersede whatever she’s coming in to do. Because is because that means what I’m doing works. You know? When I see a woman going beyond, beyond, beyond, I’m like, okay, this is great. You know? [00:09:00] I, um, and it, it sometimes you. You can’t be triggered as a mentor when, you know, um, I’ve seen it happen where people are like, whoa.

Like she’s, she’s really doing it. And then my mentor would go and step it up too. Um, I remember this happened with a guy once and he was like, wow, she’s just killing the game. Like, and he went and did it too. So you just don’t know who you’ll motivate. Um, but being in, uh, being yourself and attracting that, I feel like.

There has to be a conscious, um, decision about who you want in your life. I don’t wanna date men that aren’t successful, that aren’t smart, that aren’t, um, you know, Making his own cash. Like he’s, you know, he’s got his own thing going on. You know, a couple of my guy friends are like, look, not everybody’s gonna be a multimillionaire like you, but maybe he’ll be doing great.

And I’m like, what? Why can’t I have. Dude, that’s a multimillionaire too. Like, hello. [00:10:00] You know, why would I have to sacrifice that? But, you know, I’m still, I’m still staying with the qualities that I want in a man. Not necessarily the money, cuz just cuz a man’s making money doesn’t mean he’s going to be, you know, the right one for me.

There’s gotta be all the other qualities too, but, I think you have to make a conscious decision. You have to describe the type of people that you want. You have to be intentional, and you have to be intentional of who’s not allowed in your life. Who are you not going to lay down with? Who are you not going to spend time with?

Because as you’re spending time with people, you’re exchanging energy. Whatever thoughts are in them, whatever their frequency is, whatever they’re admitting that’s coming towards you, right? And so it’s a conscious decision about what exchange of energy you’re having with this person. and um, you know, certain family members we can’t get rid of and some we can.

Um, but you know, who do you wanna keep at a minimum and an arm’s length? Cuz you’re allowed to, you know, there’s no rule that you have to have them all the way in anymore, cuz say they’re not gonna be one of your biggest supporters. So why would you have them around in your life [00:11:00] if they’re gonna be someone that’s gonna be knocking your success or always saying things to make you feel like shit?

Because is that who you really want in your life? Somebody who’s making you feel bad. I mean, I had that person in my life for a long time and you know, my whole family, we just got rid of that person because they were not our biggest supporters or biggest fans. They would, you know, sometimes you would do something good and it’d be like, oh, that’s great.

But then a backhanded comment would come around afterwards and it was like, oh, well here’s my cornflakes. You can just be right dearly in them and just forget the, you know, other stuff. And, um, that’s no bueno, right. Yeah, it’s, it’s an intentional thing and I feel like if you have people in your life that are causing you grief and havoc, what’s your.

Because you haven’t, you haven’t set up good boundaries. You have not laid out what you really want. You’ve allowed people in, I, like I said, this is my fault when I was doing this, and the more that you say no to the people that you don’t want in your life, all of a sudden the people [00:12:00] that you really do desire because you’re like, mm-hmm.

No to that start coming in, or different people come in to fill different parts. Of your soul and make you feel a certain way, and all of a sudden your frequency goes up, your vibration goes up. Here’s dangers go up. And now you’re like, oh, remember when I would’ve allowed that behavior before? Like that would never happen.

Now remember when, like that type of person would come in, that would never happen. Now remember, I used to work with that type of client. That would never happen. Now, you know, remember I used to attract that type of mentor. That would never happen. Now, you know, it’s just. It, everything changes. And when you start to change, ironically, sometimes even the family members that irritate the shit outta you, they start to change too, right?

Um, you know, some women are like, well, how about my husband or my significant other? They’re so negative, and how do I get rid? I don’t, I don’t wanna get rid of him. I really love him. Okay? You can’t change them. So to stop pushing the books up their nose and telling them all the things that you’re listening to, or getting ’em to listen to this episode, or putting it on like 10 while you’re cleaning and having them listen what [00:13:00] you can.

I start being you and being more in your energy and see if they shift. Because sometimes it takes people feeling you in a different way for their frequency to shift around too. I do believe that’s how good energy gets spread. So Yeah, and they’re gonna have to do their own work too. Right. And sometimes when people see you changing, they wanna change too, or they wanna judge you.

But the ones that wanna change and come with you, they will. And the ones that don’t, well, I love Vista baby. Bye-bye. I’ll see you later. Uh, I got enough time for that. You know, it’s crazy because people take it personally. They take it personally. When you start growing, they start thinking, oh, she’s too good for this.

She’s too good for me. And I tell you as I’ve gotten to. A higher level of success. I realized the importance of really cultivating good friendships and being there. And it requires me picking up the phone. It [00:14:00] requires me texting people. It requires me also being that person to invite that person in my life.

And not always waiting for someone to invite me, but making plans with them, checking in on them. Um, just because your friends are strong doesn’t mean they don’t wanna hear from you. Uh, it’s a whole nother episode, but, Who you have in your life right now is gonna come down to a decision and a choice. And it might not be a permanent decision, but it could be a temporary one.

It could be one that you need clarity on. So sometimes if people are wreaking havoc in your life, maybe you need to put them on pause, take a break, go assess. See how you feel. See why you still have ’em there. See why you, you know, why you felt better when they weren’t. Um, and see how you can maybe navigate them in the future if you don’t wanna totally move them aside.

And maybe cutting people out too quickly might not be the gr greatest idea, but sometimes. That has to happen. And sometimes you’ve been allowing and lingering relationships in your life too long and making excuses for people’s behavior. And you’ve had people in your life like that because they [00:15:00] were filling a need, a traumatic part of yourself, or some part of you that was just needing, you know, that wounded little self of yours was attracting another little playmate to play with.

And perhaps that was time to cut the cords on that one. So, uh, cutting the cord is one of the greatest, uh, spiritual practices that I’ve, I’ve, I’ve really done. And it is, uh, pretty powerful. I have quite a few of them in my, my, um, programs, and it’s something that I, um, uh, I practice and especially around full moons and whatnot.

Speaking of which, if you aren’t in the Conscious Collective membership, it’s a year long membership that I have. It’s a really low investment, but we do a lot of meditations a month, training a month, um, you know, my high tickets, multiple five figures, but this is a very low investment. Go check on my website, go get the information.

It’s a conscious, collective membership. I hope you enjoyed this, uh, episode. I talk about things in a different way. You know, people are like, just get the negativity out of your life. But [00:16:00] sometimes we are the negativity, you know, because we’re allowing it or we’re, we’re having people around because they’re serving a purpose for us.

So we gotta check in why that person was there in the first place. You know, I’m always gonna lead you down Accountability road. It’s always gonna be like, well, why’d you allow that? And looking back, even the type of clients, why did I let that client through? Eh, even when they had the red flag. Eh, why’d I let that guy through?

Even though like it was Red Flag Central. Right. Uh, it’s me. It’s back to me. And why’d I let that, you know, parent talk to me that way? That that neighbor or that person, that friend, why don’t I speak up, eh, back to me. You know? And we get stronger the more that we use our voice. We realize where we are in our power.

And sometimes, you know, uh, it is our fault and, uh, we have to take accountability for that. So, , I hope you enjoy this. If you know that somebody would love to hear this, and maybe you do need to put this on 10 and play it somewhere, and so somebody else can listen to it and you can just seep into their subconscious and be like, Hmm.

Maybe they’ll [00:17:00] shift. I don’t know. But um, or maybe you’re just gonna send it to a friend and be like, Hey girl, listen to this. Or Guy, if you’re listening, um, Go download my wealth meditation. It’s free. Uh, I can start bringing in some cash for you. And I’ve got a quiz out there that you could probably take and it’ll really help you set up if you wanna work with me further.

I’m Shamina Taylor, and thank you for spending this time with me. And if you enjoyed this, leave me a review and send me some feedback. Talk to you soon. Bye for now.